FOUR STAGES OF HEARTBREAK

By Nanyachukwu

 Sometimes letting go and moving on isn't so easy as we say most especially when it comes to relationships, mostly relationship you have given your all. When someone you love with everything you have in you wakes up one day and just tells you it is over it hurts from different angles. The first thing you feel is all shades of pain, all part of you hurts most especially the heart (yea i am a science student who did anatomy but I am also a romantic who believes that the heart breaks like literally breaks into different pieces). the first stage is Denial, you refuse to believe that someone who always promised to be your anchor, your centre and focal point is walking away and leaving you disoriented, all you can do at this stage refuse talk about the breaking up believing that by not speaking about it means "THIS TOO SHALL PASS". The second stage is begging them to come back willing to take or accept whichever piece of them they are willing to give you even when you know deep down that, whichever piece they give will never be enough for you that you want "all or nothing" you blow up their phone with 70 missed calls, even go visiting when you know they won't let you in, in this stage you lose all sense reasoning, all you want is "YOU JUST WANT THEM BACK IN YOUR LIFE" this stage all you do is CRY (those silent tears, that creepy up on you when you least expect or when you see someone or something that reminds you of them)  Fear not you are almost at the promise land of letting go.

The thrid stage is Anger, angry at yourself for letting down your guards, angry at yourself for letting them in, then angry at them for leaving, for breaking down your walls and then angry at them for breaking you.

The Final stage is Letting Go now you have accepted that it is truly over, that an era has ended and it is time to let Go and move on, here you draw peace from within, you smile when they cross your thought and you remember the Love, Memories you both shared, they don't hurt anymore. 

Dear Lovers remember there is no time frame to this feelings... Mine took 3 years, 6 months and 4 days. Give yourself time you will get there eventually, you will fall, but always make sure you rise... look out for yourself first, be intentional about moving forward, some days will be harder, tougher and painfully than most but keep your focus at the light at the end of the tunnel. Sending you Love and Light as you learn to smile again.

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